Would you rather...

Yesterday, my friends and I somehow got on the topic of babies. ‘Would you rather have a baby right now or never have one?’ someone asked. ‘Never,’ I said. Most of my friends said the same. We had different reasons. Pretty much everyone said they wouldn’t be equipped to care for a child. They wouldn’t know how. They would be horrible parents, they thought.

I’ve spent a lot of time with kids, both in schools and as a babysitter and tutor. I like them a lot. I could take care of a kid just fine. I’m not saying it’s an easy task or anything, but I would genuinely enjoy being a mom, I think. But it’s not what I want to do right now, or anytime soon.

My reason for saying I’d rather be babyless forever than having one now is that there is so much I want to do before I’m ready for babies. Maybe I want to write a book. Or live in France (DUH). Mostly, I want to travel. I want to scrimp and save every last penny so that I can travel the world. You can’t do such things with babies. You really have to be more settled to do that. And I don’t want to settle right now.